Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. No gifts are required – it’s just about gratitude and good food. Spending the day with the people I love is an added bonus.
But this year, the day of thanks is at risk.
By no less than politics.
It’s hard to imagine that people are ready to cut off family members or rub salt in the wounds of the folks they’re supposed to love, all in the name of a presidential election.
But here we are, with people uninviting family members who voted the ‘wrong’ way, people refusing to attend the event, and still others planning to deliberately make the day uncomfortable for ‘wrong-voting’ loved ones.
Kamala voters are leading the way to cancel Thanksgiving.
Social media is filled with examples of people who refuse to attend a holiday of gratitude with family members who voted for Trump. Worse still is that some of the mainstream media is supporting this division.
Joy Reid has spent loads of time dumping on Trump voters and has called in a Yale psychologist to justify it.
USA Today posted an opinion piece entitled, “We can’t share Thanksgiving. You voted to deport people who look like me.” The author writes:
I am one generation from family members who came to America from Mexico. My family is here because of a guest worker program that today’s political climate would never allow, mostly because of Republicans.
I grew up, went to school and lived my life with the very people many of you think should be part of Donald Trump’s promised militarized mass deportation. I am them. They are me. We are who you voted against.Why would I sit at the same table and pass the stuffing around with those voters on Thanksgiving?
I’m not even judging or dismissing people who voted for that…
…But I’m not breaking bread with that. No chance.
Newsweek also published an article with a round-up of folks who are checking out of this year’s festivities with family. One woman quoted said:
“This is already the most sad holiday season I think I will ever experience – solely for the fact that I have made the decision for myself and my fiance and our child to skip out family holidays with my family that voted for Trump.”
“And it’s not the fact that they are Republicans, it’s the fact that they voted for Donald Trump knowing who he is and what he is capable of,” she added, “and I’m mourning the fact that my family is educated white people and they still voted for him – and they still voted for him.”
She went on: “This to me proves that Trump and his MAGA cult are truly brainwashed and it’s sad not knowing if I’ll ever get my family back.
It continues to discuss folks on Reddit who aren’t just canceling Thanksgiving, but also relationships – some people are planning to cut ties with their families forever over an election.
Huffington Post published an essay entitled, “My Husband And His Family Voted For Trump — So I’m Canceling Thanksgiving And Christmas.” She wrote:
Later that night, I briefly glanced at my husband and found myself not wanting to look into the eyes I love…
…“I am sorry about the holidays, but I cannot bite my tongue like I did with Hillary,” I told him. “I don’t want to disrespect your parents or your brother and his family in their home, or our home, so it’s best this way. No scenes. You can go see them. Seriously — I will not be in a room of 15 people who voted for Trump.”
…I was surprised he didn’t argue about the change in holiday plans. Normally, it would be a bone of contention because of how close he is to his family. Somewhere inside, he must understand what this election outcome means to me. I know he has empathy for me, for which I am thankful. I will hold onto this like a life raft as I try to figure out how we move forward with our marriage.
But I will not give thanks and hold hands in a circle with people who voted for a party that wants to take rights away from LGBTQ people. I will not pass the turkey to someone who supports people who have signaled they will cause harm to people with disabilities and the elderly. I will not sit by a Christmas tree celebrating the birth of Jesus and sipping eggnog when I know how many people may now find themselves in grave — even deadly — danger because they cannot get the reproductive care they need. I will not unwrap gifts given to me by people who voted for a party that has talked about building internment camps and mass deportation.
It’s really difficult to see how that couple will get past the sense of betrayal, much less the holidays.
Why is this happening?
We’ve all been on the losing side of elections in the past, and the holidays proceeded as normal after most of them. But this year is different.
As I’ve written before, I blame the propaganda and outright lies of the mainstream media for this rift. They have legitimately brainwashed almost half the country into seeing this as an existential crisis. This has caused anxiety, fear, and outright terror, and most of it is based on falsehoods.
This year, it’s not just a political disagreement for those people. It is an existential crisis, and they feel horribly wounded by people they believe voted for hatred. Some people are intent on punishing loved ones for seeing the world differently, while others feel devastated and betrayed.
But the problem is, the folks who end up hating former loved ones and cutting ties with them are the ones who believed the propaganda.
Unfortunately, I think this has the power to permanently sever a lot of family relationships. I don’t see a way back from the fear-inspired anger, nor do I see a way to convince people who feel this way that their fears may be overblown.
So, not only has the media affected people’s mental health. It has destroyed entire families.
How to move forward
If you are a member of a family in which the votes of the others has you upset, I have a few words of advice.
Please remember that this is one election over the course of a lifetime of elections. While you may have really big feelings right now, as you progress through the next four years and see that this is not the extinction event you were convinced it was, if you allow yourself to assess things accurately, you will soften toward people who saw things differently.
If your candidate was the winner, I urge you to squelch the desire to gloat or be cruel to people whose mental health is genuinely suffering over the outcome of this election.
In fact, I think it would be great if families avoided politics altogether at family gatherings. Not just this year but every year. I think we should spend our time together being nostalgic and remembering the shared bonds and experiences created by years of holidays and events. Break out the photo albums. Remember old times. See the similarities between your grandkids and their parents as children.
Lead the way with love.
This year could be (and probably will be) dicey.
But if we focus on the good intentions of people who see the world differently, even if we disagree with their conclusions, we can still have a season filled with gratitude and love for one another.
If you’re looking for a way to get through this together, I found this book to have some wonderful recommendations.
What are your thoughts?
Have politics threatened Thanksgiving this year in your family? Are you the outlier who voted for a different candidate than the others? What strategies will you use to make sure that family comes first?
Let’s discuss it in the comments section.
Dear Daisy and readers,
I am experiencing this right now, indeed.
Throw away your family because of one election? I think that’s the definition of “serious mental health issues”. My family will all be together for Thanksgiving and Christmas, no matter who they voted for (I don’t care who they voted for, they are Americans and have a free vote the same as I do)…. and I’m very thankful for that!
I didn’t want to travel for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, so I’m spending Thanksgiving locally with like-minded friends. Christmas will be with my brother and his family, who didn’t vote as I did, but we all get along and I never discuss politics with them. I feel badly for families who have split over this issue.
Crazy is it not?
Back in 2016, reading about a woman who was divorcing her husband of some 30+ years all because he voted for Trump.
Now we have even more crazy. Cutting off ties with friends and family over who they voted for. Know what else that reminds me of, a cult. Separate one from friends and family and get them to rely on the “cult” for their support.
I voted for Trump. I would not gloat about it. But if they brought it up, I would gladly spell out the facts of the situation as my parents watch only MSM. Last time I was visiting, economics came up and I easily debunked a number of things they said. I was not snarky about it but just used facts.
While I am sure there might be some out there calling for cutting ties with friends or family who voted for Harris, seems the majority of the calls for cutting ties with friends and family is coming from MSM and Harris supporters. Makes one wonder about their emotional state and possible mental health.
As for the propaganda coming out of MSM, turn it off. You will be better off without MSM.
Hear ye! Hear ye! 1stMarineJarHead has spoken.
Well said, Marine! Debunk without being snarky. Majority of ‘cutting ties’ is coming from Harris supporters. You’re right about the propaganda, too. Everyone would be better off without MSM as it is today – entirely paid off by Soros and his minions.
Blessings,
OD
10/7 ended seven or eight, nearly all, of my friendships, revealing them to be anti-Semitic. And that’s it, I do not give the time of day to anti-Semites. I had several friends from countries and a religion associated with that ideological position. Also from EU countries. My background is in academia, and there you go.
My gmail informs me of FB updates by them, so I know that they all hated Trump and voted Dem. My ethics and morality do not permit me to hear someone talk about their reproductive rights, while not mentioning their approving of the killing of babies. Of uncounted millions of illegal immigrants claiming unending and total support from taxpayers on the verge of bankruptcy. Killing or raping a lot of them. Of the destruction of the state of Israel. Of total war in WWIII to kill another million Ukrainians and Russians, sending Western troops to join in the bloodbath.
If I were to pretend that the ideology which guides their actions were less important than our relationship, it would mean betraying the victims in the situations just mentioned. They are all burning in my heart. I would feel dirty and guilty if I went to Thanksgiving wearing a muzzle, forcing myself to not reply to provocations, but with observations on the sudden cold snap. I think you have to speak out to bring change. I read that 20% of black men and 40% of Hispanic men voted for Trump, which will bring much-needed change. An unprecedented realignment. Most of them shifted their allegiance based on conversations with other people. Silence is complicity.
In all seriousness, what is going on right now with people turning on family is a mental illness, for four years they belonged to a cult-like mob that was told repeatedly to hate the opposition because they are evil, they heard lies repeated to them over and over again, on TV, on the radio, on social media, in universities, 24/7, they were brainwashed into thinking their hate was love, their intolerance was tolerance, their violence was in the name of peace, etc. Be patient with them. If they dis-invite you or turn down your invitation, let them know they are your family and you still love them. Wish them a Happy Thanksgiving, and in a few weeks invite them over for Christmas, then New Years Eve, send them that birthday card, show them love and mercy because, and again, with all seriousness, this is an illness and would you turn on a family member that had any other illness or would you support them and let them know they are loved. Understand that within a 24 hour period their “cult” imploded, their leaders turned on each other, and those that pushed this way of thinking essentially turned around and said, “Yeah, we kinda made that stuff up. You’re on your own now.” Their reality crumbled around them and they don’t know how to pick up the pieces, or sort through what is real and what isn’t, and get on with life; in a way they are socially crippled.
When they do reflect on the past four years imagine what they have to admit to themselves, that they sexualized children with the “trans” movement, they turned on women and told them men can compete in women’s sports, that killing fully formed babies is a right, that our country should have no borders, that we should eliminate all police, that all White people hate non-white people, and that if you disagree with them it’s okay to violently assault you. It’s probably much easier to live in denial than to face this reality.
All we can do is be patient and hope over time they see for themselves they were wrong.
Call it a character flaw, but i have ZERO desire to have ANY left-of-centers polluting my family holiday table. After all the vitriol, hate and insults they spewed at US the last 4 years and CONTINUE to spew, they can take their mental illness , their pronouns, their bad haircuts, nose rings and aversion to bathwater, fold it 5 ways, and shove it up their @sses. They came a hair’s breath away from destroying this country with their pronoun crap, while we have mothers crying online because they are now rationing bacon and peanut butter to their kids, and skipping meals just to keep a ROOF over their family’s heads! They simply don’t get reality! And these jagoffs voted for pronouns… I feel nothing but contempt for people so mentally weak that they allowed themselves to get brainwashed to this severe degree so easily…..
I have no forgiveness in my heart for these selfish, self-centered, narcissistic nose-ringed douchebags. They have zero concept of what gratitude and thankfulness even IS…
Let em spend Thanksgiving with a Swanson pot pie for all i care!
Note… I thank the dear lord daily, that nary a ONE of my immediate family members is a commie piece of crap! That ALONE bears a year’s worth of gratitude…
J
This reminds me of how they encouraged their followers to shun the “unvaxxed” a couple of years ago. Speaking as a childless, cat lady who refused to vote for either party this year, I find Joy Reid’s face creepy and ugly. She looks possessed with crazy devil eyes as lie after lie pours out of her leering mouth.
“Your body, my choice,” sounds like what The View members were spouting about the clot shot. Everyone who was injured or lost a loved one to that experimental injection should come together to hold them and the rest of the MSM accountable.
But those who continue to reject family and friends out of love for these wicked liars should be allowed to go their own way.
My problem is not the rejection of Trump but pop culture’s outright renunciation of Truth. I am very pro Truth. I refuse to live by lies no matter how hip and fashionable they are or how many vacuous celebrities tout them. Those who love and practice lies are no friends of mine.
For the last 15-20 years, the rule in our house for large family gatherings, regardless of the occasion, has been NO politics, NO religion. It has worked well.
Now, our smaller-ish family gathering (Kids, grandkids, and spouses now at 15) are all on the same page, so anything goes. 🤪